Saturday, January 23, 2010

The American "Woman"

Okay, so about once a year I get on my soap box over one particular issue or another.  I thought I'd get it out of my system early this time around! 


I love our nation.  I love that we have such freedom.  I, however, think we have turned freedom into fury when it comes to certain issues.  I have been forever reading a book called "Created to be His Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl.  It is a book about a woman's TRUE place in our ever-changing world.  I love this book because it is a direct challenge to the God-forsaken feminist movement (which, in my opinion, should be called the masculine movement).  It has taken us away from the very thing that is attractive and divine about us as women.  If we want to be just like men then we can forget being desirable TO one! 








In my younger 20's I was consumed with this movement and I didn't even notice that it was taking place.  "I don't need no man to make me happy!"  "Why do I have to stay home barefoot and pregnant when I have gifts and talents, too?"  "I am worth more than just some cooking, cleaning, mothering housewife!"  





The very things I looked down upon were my very own destiny to master and take dominion over... THE HOME!  In today's twisted view of family and community we have lost the importance of the HOME.  The moral standards, world views, talents and traits I possess today, be they good or bad, were not shaped in a classroom or a sanctuary.  They were shaped by the time I spent with my mother and father at or away from the dinner table.  They were formed by the discipline (or lack thereof) that I received on a daily basis in the home.  They were formed by helping my mother make cookies and learning to sweep, mop and do my OWN laundry at the age of 10. 


I see this new wave and this new generation of "entitlement" sweeping across most of the young women I meet today.  It sickens me to the core.  There are 25-year-old women who live in filth because they expect someone else to clean up their messes for them.  Not just in their kitchen, bathroom or bedroom but in their lives that have wandered off course, as well.  They don't know how to make food that doesn't come from a box.  They don't feel that they are responsible to learn because "they don't have a family yet".  There are little girls trapped in the bodies of beautiful women that are yearning for acceptance that they never got in the HOME.  They are perpetuating the cycle of selfishness because in their search for acceptance they are getting pregnant and raising the next generation of entitled, affection hungry, spoiled children.  When will this end?


Women that live lives instilled with values that promote family and character are pushed to the side and disrespected by this generation.  We are deemed completely irrelevant because we are "JUST" housewives or stay-at-home moms with no lives.  We can't possibly understand what happens in the "real world".  Yet we are raising the very children that will be leading the kids of these young ladies in ethics, academics, and moral standards.  Hitler, Obama, Bush, Gahndi, Jesus, Bin Laden... they all made a mark on history - good or bad - and they all had one thing in common.  They had a MOTHER or FATHER (present or not).  The job their parents was reflected in the way they turned out as men.  Why do you think people worship The Virgin Mary to this day?  All she did was raise a son (obviously he was part God's but we'll ignore that fact for a moment since few in her day acknowledged it).  In today's society she would be turned down for lunch by every self-absorbed, over worked, over sexed young lady with a college degree!  Our schools and our work places are filled with these ladies.  Our daycare facilities, adoption agencies and abortion clinic waste baskets are filled with their children.  Forgive me for being so blunt.  It has to be said.  


On a more positive note... there is so much hope, but we as the virtuous single women, wives and mothers that give a hoot have got to start doing something to set the standard that is desirable to these women.  What will it take?  What kind of commitment do we have to show to them to prove that we mean business?  What will open their eyes that are no longer able to see truth or care about the difference between right or wrong?  

Our first responsibility is to train up the young men and women in our very own homes.  Our little ones.  I sometimes lose sight of how important my job is.  The other day I told Micah "I don't feel like I'm changing the world when I spend 2 hours a day swatting my son's hand for playing in the dogs' food and water!"  He responded with much wisdom.  He said "you are teaching him boundaries.  One day he will want to touch a woman that is not his wife with every fiber of his being and somewhere deep in the recesses of his character and mind he will feel a 'swat' that tells him his consequences will not be worth the momentary pleasure".   Wow.  

That is how we spare the next generation from this disease of self-indulgence.  At least, that's how we START.  Our children will lead very soon.  They will teach the children of the single moms what real love is.  Our husbands can be the replacement dad's to their sons and daughters.  We are the SALT of the earth according to Christ.  Salt adds a flavor that you didn't have before.  It also makes you so thirsty for only what can truly quench you.  He is the only answer to this dilemma, this plague.  We must live lives that are centered around Him, no matter how foolish it seems in this day and age.  The truth is, the self-seeking, self-absorbed ones are also the ones who hate themselves and cannot look in the mirror and be happy.  They know there's a thirst for more in their souls and we do have the only WATER that will quench it.  THERE IS HOPE.  It is not found in the government or behind any bedroom door.  It is found in the ONE who is in us.  Let us be the answer to the prayer prayed for us thousands of years ago. 


Please pass this on to any woman you love.  

2 comments:

Dee Dee said...

Amazing, Mary, truly amazing! Feel free to step on your wonderful soapbox any time! Yes, it is hard to feel noble and purposeful when we're surronded by laundry and dirty dishes! But, we have the most important job ever - making disciples of a very captive audience. Preach it, sista.

Melissa said...

Wow, this is so POWERFUL! There is so much quality in this that I will have to reread, process, apply, then repeat.